It is not good for you to be alone.

A Biblical Pattern for Marriage

Get Ready

Your appointed time has come.

You’re in your 40s and have been single for a long time —never married, childless

and Scripture makes one thing unmistakably clear:
being alone is not God’s will.

You’ve watched many build their own families and, at times, felt the deep disappointment when your choice to stop sinning and live with integrity has led you through a wilderness season of delay.

Today, you long to see the good He has spoken about companionship come to pass in your life—and what He has purposed for marriage fulfilled.

Being unmarried
in your 40s can
leave you
feeling behind

“For the vision is yet for an
appointed time, but at the end
it shall speak, and not lie:
though it tarry, wait for it;
because it will surely come,
it will not tarry.”

- Habakkuk 2:3

Marriage was never the world’s idea;
it is God’s.

It was designed for blessing, companionship, legacy, favor, goodness, offspring, oneness, mutual faith, and love.

Swiping, hookup culture, premarital sex, serial dating, cohabiting, and the pursuit of instant gratification—none of these are Godly patterns for a man and a woman entering the covenant of marriage. The fruit is clear: failed marriages, divorce, broken families, blended households, and single-parent homes—none of which reflect God’s design.

Those who enter marriage by the strength of the flesh rather than the guidance of God’s Spirit soon discover that a covenant ordained by God cannot be upheld by man-made rules, leading to frustration, disappointment, or failure.

For those of us who long for God’s way into marriage but have never been shown the path through Scripture—and are trying to understand the delay—this season can feel like a dark wilderness, marked by loneliness and fruitlessness… 

— not because God withholds good, but because His promises are inherited through faith and patience.
Introducing

A Three-Month Scriptural Journey for Marriage

This journey positions you to be found, brought, and gathered by the Spirit of God, following biblical patterns revealed in Scripture:

Found – Proverbs 18:22

Brought – Genesis 2:22

Gathered – Isaiah 34:16

This prayer-led process is modeled specifically after Genesis 24.

Introductions, when made, are prayerfully confirmed.


For men and women in their 40s who have never married
and have no children.

For 16 years,
I was single

By the time I reached my thirties, I had sold out completely to God—surrendering every part of my life, especially the one area that had once kept me bound in sin: relationships.

I focused wholeheartedly on my walk with God and witnessed Him move miraculously in every other area—family salvations, healing in my body, relationships restored, financial breakthroughs—yet the desire for marriage remained unfulfilled.

Each new year, I believed this would be the year—only for it to end in disappointment, doubt, and a loneliness that grew almost unbearable.

Then my thirties turned into my forties,
and the singleness remained
—still seemingly unanswered by God.

One day, I realized it wasn’t God withholding, but perhaps it had something to do with me.

Around that time, I made a list of every doubt, lie, and belief I held about myself and marriage—an entire page filled with falsehoods. I then took each lie to Scripture, seeking a truth to replace it.

In the years that followed, I delved into the Scriptures from Genesis to Revelation, seeking the Word with the kind of focus only desperation produces.

I prayed in the Holy Spirit, renewed my mind, confessed His promises, and studied every passage that spoke to preparation, marriage, and family.

And one day, I became thoroughly convinced that marriage was unquestionably for me—because I found where it was written concerning my life.

I continued digging deeper until God revealed patterns and principles I had never seen before, hidden in His Word regarding marriage.

As I read Genesis 24, it became undeniable:
God wasn’t just telling a story…

I saw Abraham the father—just like God the Father—recognizing that it was not good for the man to be alone.

I saw the servant, led by prayer. 

I saw Rebekah—like Zipporah and Rachel—who was at the well when she was found and became a wife.

And I saw Isaac, stepping into marriage in his forties—which encouraged me deeply, now that I was in mine.

I looked at other stories marked by forty and recognized that it is never just a number in Scripture. It marks a set-apart season of testing, trial, and preparation—a period during which God refines His people and brings the season to completion, resulting in fulfillment, transformation, and new beginnings.

Most importantly, I saw in Scripture that God appointed Isaac’s wife—and brought her forth at the right time.

Suddenly, Scripture was no longer a collection of stories and parables that were at times hard to grasp and unrelatable, but interwoven truths revealing the heart of God concerning marriage.

Built on
the rock of revelation:

What was revealed through Scripture became the foundation for what we built.

Our approach follows the pattern in Genesis 24, showing how God faithfully leads those set apart for His purposes and highlighting the significance of forty as a divinely appointed time for the fulfillment of His purposes.

A Simple 3-Step
 Biblical Process 

Nomination

We receive nominations and bring each one before the Lord in prayer, seeking His direction for each submission.

Guidance

We receive the counsel of fathers, spiritual mentors, and the church, following the posture of Abraham’s servant.

Prayer

We pray with the clarity and direction provided, and watch to see what the Lord will do.

We commit our way to the Lord and trust Him to bring it to pass.

*Self-nomination is permitted with strong references.

Marriage is a divinely ordained covenant through which a man walks in God’s blessing—


to be fruitful, to multiply, and to faithfully lead and care for the household God entrusts to him.

Imagine stepping fully into God’s design for marriage: a union established by Him, marked by purpose and strength, grounded in shared faith, and reflecting the love between Christ and His Church for the world to see.

Imagine restoring your family line—partnering with God to break generational patterns, redeem what was lost, and establish something rooted in blessing, companionship, and lasting legacy.

Imagine building all this for generations to come upon a sure foundation:

a household built on Jesus Christ

a stone, a tried stone, a precious cornerstone, a sure foundation.

How it works:

One Prayerful Process, guided by Scripture and God’s appointed time.

You may enter in one of two ways:

  • A father, mentor, or spiritual covering submits a nomination on your behalf, with your knowledge and consent.

    If there is peace, we prayerfully engage — and wait on the Lord’s leading.

Submit a nomination

  • You may submit yourself for prayerful consideration. Each submission is reviewed with discernment. Not all move forward, and timing varies.

    If invited:
    Men enter a three-month journey of waiting and biblical meditation before the LORD.
    Women enter a three-month journey of prayer and readiness.

Apply for Consideration

There is no cost to apply or participate. This is a prayer-led journey, not a paid program or service.

This process is completely  free.

For women

A 3-Month Season of Prayerful Readiness


Women enter a three-month season of teaching and prayer—renewing the mind, co-laboring with God, and walking in readiness to be found as a wife, brought by Him and gathered by His Holy Spirit.

Teaching
Learn God’s promises, principles, and patterns from Genesis to Revelation for becoming a wife

Prayer
Apply prayer models from Scripture for meeting your future husband and building your family.

Journal
90-Day Word Meditation Journal with daily word prompts to dig deeper into God’s Word.
(Free digital download)

For Men

A 3-Month Season of Waiting and Biblical Meditation


Men enter this season through readiness, counsel, and prayer.

Men who are nominated by others, as well as those who self-nominate and are prayerfully selected, are placed on a waitlist, where our team seeks the LORD regarding timing and next steps.

This reflects Isaac’s season of waiting and trust—remaining before the LORD as God brought to pass what He had appointed.

During this season, men are expected to:

  • Remain rooted in Scripture

  • Give themselves to biblical meditation on the Word

  • Remain under spiritual covering

  • Be prepared to steward and provide for the meeting itself

To support this posture, men are encouraged to use a short, Scripture-based resource on meditating on God’s Word.

 FAQs

  • Jesus Christ.

    From that foundation, we pray first—before consideration, before discernment, before any next step.

    We pray, asking God for the right men and women to come. (Psalm 65:2) We take God’s Word and pray for the encounter—for those who are ready.
    (Matthew 25:1–10) And like the servant, we pray—then watch in peace, to see how God answers. (Genesis 24:21)

  • Appointed Time unfolds in three-month, set-apart prayer periods, guided by biblical patterns and wisdom.

    There are three yearly sessions:

    • April–June

    • July–September

    • October - December

    Everyone who submits their information is prayerfully considered for an upcoming quarter.

  • After prayerful review:

    • Self-nominations may be invited to complete a more detailed questionnaire.

    • Nominated individuals may be asked to complete an intake form.

    Following that:

    • Women may be invited to join the three-month prayer journey.

    • Men may be notified that they are on the waitlist, and that our team is praying alongside them during that time.

    During these three months, we pray for the God-appointed encounter—however the Lord brings it to pass, whether through an introduction or by His leading elsewhere.

    If there is clarity for a next step, you will be contacted. If not, we continue to hold your submission in prayer, trusting God’s timing and leading.

    Not all submissions move forward. Those that do not are held in prayer for up to six months.

  • Each three-month period centers on men and women whom we believe the Lord has called and is setting apart for that time. We walk alongside them prayerfully and with purpose, anchored in Scripture and guided by the Holy Spirit.

  • Introductions happen only as God directs, in His timing and according to His guidance.

  • This journey is for men and women in their 40s because, throughout Scripture, forty is never just a number—it is repeatedly tied to testing, preparation, and breakthrough, often following long obedience and faithful waiting—not merely the passing of time, but the work God was allowed to accomplish within it.

  • No.

    This journey is for those who have endured in faith, investing in God’s Word rather than the ways of the world, and who desire marriage according to God’s principles and timing. It is for those who have stood firm through a long season of singleness.

“Yes indeed, it won’t be long now.” God’s Decree.

-Amos 9:13 MSG

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The appointed time for marriage has come.